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If you follow me on Instagram, you know I just got back from my trip to Chicago. Traveling solo, hanging with my girlfriend, eating good food, and seeing the sites was just what the doctor ordered. Although it was hard to leave my family, it always feels good to spending QT with myself. This isn’t only beneficial to me but to my family as well. Taking time out out for myself is how I show myself love. Practicing self love is so important because when I’m feeling good about me, I’m at my best for them. Here are 5 ways I practice self love and make sure I’m operating at a high frequency.
“Love yourself girl or nobody will” ~ J. Cole
“Love yourself girl or nobody will” ~ J. Cole
1. Spend Quality time with Yourself
I touched on this above but I cannot stop expressing the importance of this. Ask yourself this, how can you love yourself if you can’t spend time with yourself? Think about it, when you meet a guy/girl you like all you want to do is spend time with that person and date/court. Over time you learn what they like and dislike, find the things you have in common, and eventually fall in love with them.
Why not take some of these dating principles and learn to date ourselves and learn what we like and dislike. Learning to spend time with yourself you’ll eventually make you fall in love with yourself! Isn’t that a beautiful concept? If you don’t know or love yourself, how can you have any room to love someone else?
Although going to a pedicure with bae is nice, I also love going with myself. When I was younger, the thought of going out alone was so foreign until it happened on accident. Since then, I’ve been enjoying me some ME time. Go sit at the bar of your favorite restaurant and sit at the bar and grab a bite to eat and your favorite glass of wine (if your single, this is a great way to meet people). It’s very therapeutic and nice to not have to hear mommy mommy mommy. Just pure quite doing what I want to do.
2. Positive Affirmations
We tend to underestimate the power of the mind. Have you ever been thinking of someone and then they coincidentally they call. Or when you obsess over something your afraid of and it comes true. Yes, I’ve been there too. Just like we can speak bad things into our lives we can speak good things as well.
Speaking positive affirmations to yourself daily helps you to become aware of your daily thoughts, both the good and the bad. With consistent practice, speaking positivly will make you keep the small important things we often take for granted in prospective. Which in turn leaves little room for negativity. Studies have shown that optimistic people live longer happy, and healthier lives. Speaking positive affirmations attracts blessings into your life because you are living in a constant state of gratitude.
When you first start off it may feel a little silly but don’t let that stop you. With practice it will become a way of life for you. Even if you struggle with the actual positive words that you are saying, repeating them out loud to yourself will trick the unconscious mind that they are true. With time, this manifest itself in the conscious mind. If you still struggle with this watch this video on how to stop negative self talk.
3. Take Care of Your Temple
We are all trying to get snatched to slay for summer 2017, but this all starts from within. I’m definitely not where I want to be physically, but I’ve worked extremely hard at changing the way I eat which has given me a lot of benefits (i’ll save my story for another post). I’ve been vegan/vegetarian for 5 years now and I don’t think I could ever go back. I’ve back slid to fish every blue moon, but I don’t think I can ever go back to eating meat. Although my diet may not be for everyone, I’m a firm believer in you are what you eat. If you eat like crap, you’ll feel like crap, and most likely look like crap. And I say that from a place of love. A snatched body, good health, and glowing skin all starts in the kitchen. Eating right in conjunction with working out and meditation is key. Everything is all about balance.
4. Watch Who you Surround Yourself With
Im sure we all have heard, “You are the 5 people you hang around”, or “Birds of a feather flock together”. These may be cliche, but they are soooo true! These phrases tend carry a negative connotation but can mean a good thing as well. Surround yourself with positive people who truly love and care about you. Make sure that they are are people who inspire you to be better and pushes you to be your best self. Try to also acquire friends around that are better off than you that can drop some gems on you. Iron sharpens iron.
Stay clear of yes men. How will you grow and elevate with people who tell you your right all the time. We are all flawed and sometimes can’t see the picture when we are in the frame. So it’s imperative to surround yourself with dope people that you can trust. People that will hold you accountable. Pressure makes diamonds.
5. Celebrate the Wins
This one is new for me.. I’m my worst critic. My life didn’t go the way I planned and this feeling sometimes makes me blind to the things I have accomplished. One day I venting to my bestie and she immidiatly cut me off and told me I don’t give myself enough credit. She began telling me about this book called Abundance Now by Lisa Nichols and sent me a copy. This book is a game changer and has really been helping me! Lisa talks about celebrating you wins, ESPECIALLY the small ones. I love this concept because it helps me to not only recognize my blessings (big or small), but inspires me to keep pushing toward the big picture.
Of course this is a ongoing life practice. But I believe these 5 tips on practicing self love will not only make you fall head over heels with yourself, but also make sure your operating at a high frequency to pour into others. How do you practice self love? Let me know in the comments below. I would love to hear!